Date: September 25, 2005
Q: What do y'all think about courting?And how old do
you think you should be before you should?I know its up
to your parents but I was just
wondering what y'all thought!
A: Could you explain to us what you think courting
means so we can respond better to you question? Also,
as you stated, it is ultimately up to your parents.
Date: October 7, 2005
Q: Okay, this is sort of a dating question, but sometimes it
feels weird talking to your parents about a "teen" thing,
so here it is. My ex-boyfriend asks me to go to the prom...
I know it was God's will that i broke up with him in the
first place (long story =)). So my ex- knows that i will not
go back out with him...at all and I tell him that if I did
go, it would just be as friends, but i don't want to make
him have any temptations whatsoever. What should i
do??? We're still good friends but if me going with him
to the prom is gonna do anything to make him really
want to go back out with me, then I don't want to go. I
have been praying about it, but I just ran by this
website again and was wondering what your opinion
would be on this?!?!
A: Thanks for the question. Let me first say that God
always has an answer for us. Let's look at your dilemma
and try to find a Godly answer. First, this is your ex-
boyfriend. I do not know how long he was your
boyfriend and who did the breaking up. However,
there are normally emotions that are not so easily
overcome and another time together could cause
emotions to flare again. You say that you know it was
God's will that you end the relationship. Would God
want you to put yourself in the place where he told you
it was wrong for you to be in the first place? I just do not
thing that a date to an event like the prom is for just
friends. When I was a teenager I did not ask "just a
friend" to the prom. I asked someone that I thought
could possibly turn into a girlfriend. If God has told you to
leave someone alone as far as a boyfriend then you
need to do as God tells you. I hope and pray that this
helps.
Date: June 11, 2006
Q: How old do you think you should be before you
should date? Is 13 too young for a boyfriend or girlfriend?
A: The rules at my house are you have to be 16 years old
to date. Teenagers have to be very careful when they
are dating not to put themselves in situations where
they will be tempted to do things they are not supposed
to do. Satan is always trying to get people to do things
they know not to do. The purpose of dating is to get to
know a person to see who they really are and find out if
they are a possible candidate for marriage. This can
be done in a very respectful way of going to church on
a date, going somewhere with family or with friends. I
do not recommend spending time alone in dark
places. You can spend time alone together out of
hearing range but in seeing range of others to keep
each other honest. Remember, the spirit is willing but
the flesh is weak; and always remember to put God first
and He will lead you in the right direction.
I think 13 is too young to have a serious
boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. There is certainly
nothing wrong with being friends with boys and talking
to them when you are thirteen. Our society today put
too much pressure on teenagers to have boyfriends at a
younger and younger age. Enjoy your youth. There will
be plenty of time later for the boys/girls, marriage, kids,
etc.
Date: September 10, 2008
Q: I was hurt in my church, so I stopped going!!!! Do you
think I should go back???
A: Being hurt by someone is not fun at all, but it seems to
be worse when you’re hurt by someone in the church.
Aren't those supposed to be the people that you can
trust rely on? Yes, but we have to continue to remember
that everyone is human, and although someone may
be in church and an active member, they still make
mistakes. Another thing you must consider is that most of
the time the pain that was caused was not intentional,
and usually that person doesn’t even know they hurt
you. It might be beneficial to talk things over with this
person if you feel comfortable. If not, you still have to
forgive this person, which is completely necessary. But,
back to your question. YES! You should go back to
church immediately! Although staying out of church
seems to be the best answer, that’s only the devil’s
deceitfulness attempting to keep you discouraged and
out of church. Actually going back to church will help
heal your wounds because church is where you get your
help and there’s nothing like pouring your heart out to
the Lord at the altar! I hope this answer has helped you
to make the right choice. And, hopefully soon you’ll be
rejoicing in the Lord at your church again. Remember
that God is there for you and he can heal any wound,
physical or emotional.
Q: What do y'all think about courting?And how old do
you think you should be before you should?I know its up
to your parents but I was just
wondering what y'all thought!
A: Could you explain to us what you think courting
means so we can respond better to you question? Also,
as you stated, it is ultimately up to your parents.
Date: October 7, 2005
Q: Okay, this is sort of a dating question, but sometimes it
feels weird talking to your parents about a "teen" thing,
so here it is. My ex-boyfriend asks me to go to the prom...
I know it was God's will that i broke up with him in the
first place (long story =)). So my ex- knows that i will not
go back out with him...at all and I tell him that if I did
go, it would just be as friends, but i don't want to make
him have any temptations whatsoever. What should i
do??? We're still good friends but if me going with him
to the prom is gonna do anything to make him really
want to go back out with me, then I don't want to go. I
have been praying about it, but I just ran by this
website again and was wondering what your opinion
would be on this?!?!
A: Thanks for the question. Let me first say that God
always has an answer for us. Let's look at your dilemma
and try to find a Godly answer. First, this is your ex-
boyfriend. I do not know how long he was your
boyfriend and who did the breaking up. However,
there are normally emotions that are not so easily
overcome and another time together could cause
emotions to flare again. You say that you know it was
God's will that you end the relationship. Would God
want you to put yourself in the place where he told you
it was wrong for you to be in the first place? I just do not
thing that a date to an event like the prom is for just
friends. When I was a teenager I did not ask "just a
friend" to the prom. I asked someone that I thought
could possibly turn into a girlfriend. If God has told you to
leave someone alone as far as a boyfriend then you
need to do as God tells you. I hope and pray that this
helps.
Date: June 11, 2006
Q: How old do you think you should be before you
should date? Is 13 too young for a boyfriend or girlfriend?
A: The rules at my house are you have to be 16 years old
to date. Teenagers have to be very careful when they
are dating not to put themselves in situations where
they will be tempted to do things they are not supposed
to do. Satan is always trying to get people to do things
they know not to do. The purpose of dating is to get to
know a person to see who they really are and find out if
they are a possible candidate for marriage. This can
be done in a very respectful way of going to church on
a date, going somewhere with family or with friends. I
do not recommend spending time alone in dark
places. You can spend time alone together out of
hearing range but in seeing range of others to keep
each other honest. Remember, the spirit is willing but
the flesh is weak; and always remember to put God first
and He will lead you in the right direction.
I think 13 is too young to have a serious
boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. There is certainly
nothing wrong with being friends with boys and talking
to them when you are thirteen. Our society today put
too much pressure on teenagers to have boyfriends at a
younger and younger age. Enjoy your youth. There will
be plenty of time later for the boys/girls, marriage, kids,
etc.
Date: September 10, 2008
Q: I was hurt in my church, so I stopped going!!!! Do you
think I should go back???
A: Being hurt by someone is not fun at all, but it seems to
be worse when you’re hurt by someone in the church.
Aren't those supposed to be the people that you can
trust rely on? Yes, but we have to continue to remember
that everyone is human, and although someone may
be in church and an active member, they still make
mistakes. Another thing you must consider is that most of
the time the pain that was caused was not intentional,
and usually that person doesn’t even know they hurt
you. It might be beneficial to talk things over with this
person if you feel comfortable. If not, you still have to
forgive this person, which is completely necessary. But,
back to your question. YES! You should go back to
church immediately! Although staying out of church
seems to be the best answer, that’s only the devil’s
deceitfulness attempting to keep you discouraged and
out of church. Actually going back to church will help
heal your wounds because church is where you get your
help and there’s nothing like pouring your heart out to
the Lord at the altar! I hope this answer has helped you
to make the right choice. And, hopefully soon you’ll be
rejoicing in the Lord at your church again. Remember
that God is there for you and he can heal any wound,
physical or emotional.
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